Information for advisers and supportive individuals
This page is written for people like family, friends, doctors, counsellors, churches, pastoral carers, solicitors, employers and any others likely to see how the experience of relationship breakdown affects someone they care about.
DRW focusses on the emotional recovery of its participants in the six sessions but we appreciate that a network of supporters both before and after the workshop is crucial to recovery from the trauma of a relationship breakdown.
This page explains why friends or professional advisers can find it difficult to help when a relationship breakdown occurs and why recommending the workshop is likely to be a good thing to do.
Family and friends wanting to help can be overwhelmed when someone is going through a relationship breakdown. People change at such times and may not react as you would expect. Potential helpers who know both parties to a relationship breakdown may find it is even harder to be as supportive as they would like to be.
Please browse the other pages for more detailed information about how the workshop is run and the feedback page for some examples of feedback we have had from participants. We also get feedback from friends and professional advisers remarking on the positive changes they see in participants over the course of the six sessions. Participants become easier to be around and more receptive to advice.
DRW volunteers do not give advice which comes only from the video and relates purely to emotional recovery. The power of the workshop is the way it lets participants meet others in a similar situation and share in group discussions on the six topics.
The workshop focusses on emotional recovery so benefits participants get from the workshop are complementary to professional services such as family law advice and health advice and to the support given by family and friends.
In summary; DRW works in partnership with the participants and those around them to accelerate their recovery from the breakdown. Therefore a recommendation to attend a workshop is likely to be one of the most constructive ways to help. Typically a participant will be in a group where nobody knows anyone else and under the principles of DRW what is said is confidential and nobody pre-judges them. In this environment, participants find it much easier to share issues they may have bottled up or not resolved yet.
Some people who might seem to need the workshop may be reluctant to commit to attending one – especially some men. Sometimes people recognise it might do them good but find reasons for not going like lack of money, childcare cover or they might even think they are a lost cause so why bother. We train our telephone contacts to listen to and deal with these barriers to attending but really appreciate an encouragement others can give that will help the participant make the call and then book on to a workshop.
Although everyone in a workshop must have experienced separation or divorce, others can help by promoting it to those who need it. It is also possible to help with pre-workshop organisation or even to support a local person who has been on a workshop and wants to start a new group. Please contact the national number or the email address for further information.
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