Guiding Principles

guiding-principles 230x230Also known as the Fundamental Principles, these rules establish a common standard that governs all our workshops. This is a slightly abridged web version – you may download the full version as approved by the trustees.

• The only purpose of the workshop is to help participants recover from the emotional trauma of separation or divorce.

• The workshop is not to be run for personal gain. Any profit is to be re-invested in future workshops, either locally or nationally.

• The workshop is to be offered unconditionally to anyone regardless of faith, sex, colour, race or any other basis. It is available to any person, of any age, at any stage of separation or divorce or any time afterwards.

• The only qualification for attending is that the participants have, in their own opinion, experienced the irretrievable breakdown of a significant relationship. Bereavement, although having many similarities, is not included.

• No account is to be taken as to whether the participant is the initiator or victim of the breakdown.

• The workshop is not about conversion to any faith. Religion should only be discussed during group sharing sessions when relevant to a participants’ personal divorce experience.

• The workshop is not a place for sexism, selling any products or for recruitment to political or campaigning groups.

• Apart from the material in the video and handouts, DRW does not offer advice of any form to others. The workshop only deals with the emotional issues of the participant, helping them understand why they feel as they do. Facilitators should also discourage participants from offering advice during the group discussions.

• Group sharing sessions are the most important part of the workshop. This is where healing begins.

• All participants should have an opportunity to talk during group sharing. No participant should be pressurised to talk if they don’t want to.

• Everyone the participants meet at the workshop must have experienced the breakdown of a significant relationship. This gives credibility to the workshop. They should also have attended the workshop themselves, except in start-up situations.

• Suitable group facilitators are to be selected from participants of previous workshops. Going through the workshop a second time in this role adds an extra dimension to their own recovery and maintains the strength of the workshop.

• The local workshop coordinator should have the same criteria as a group facilitator (an exception may be made in start-up situations).

• A series of weekly workshops is preferred to the condensed weekend format. Having seven days to think between sessions is important in coming to terms with issues raised.

• Where possible participants should pay to attend. Payment helps the recipient value themselves and is an important first step in their recovery – “Surely I am worth this?” It also helps them value the workshop.

• Exceptions in the amount paid are discouraged but sponsorship may be offered at the discretion of the local committee, i.e. part of the money may be paid for them.

• DRW is not in competition with other agencies, organisations or professions.

• The video is an aid to promoting discussion for group sessions. It is not for casual viewing outside the workshop environment.

• No personal information is to be recorded about individual participants prior to attending other than that allowed for by the official Response Form. No records are to be kept of anything said during group discussions and all information is to be kept confidential.

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